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                          their points. If you both are on              and their moods. Also, you can
                          the  same  page  the  issue  will             spice  up  your  life  with  a  little
                          resolve  easily.  If  not,  then  try         help  from  your  partner.  Don’t
                          to  come  to  a  midpoint  if                 be  selfish  in  bed.  For  most
                          possible.  Saying  that  it  also             females,  sex  is  mainly  about
                          means both the partners should                relationship  and  procreation
                          have patience.                                first,  and  pleasure  and  sexual
                       •  Dominance:  Ultimately  in  a                 satisfaction  second.  For  the
                          relation,  one  of  the  partners             majority    of    men,     these
                          will  show  dominance  over  the              priorities     are     reversed.
                          years. Dominance is so intrinsic              Certainly, there are exceptions.
                          to human relationships that we                And,  in  some  cases,  role
                          don’t  even  notice  it.  We  all             reversals.  But,  for  the  most
                          know it somewhere at the back                 part,    psychologically,    the
                          of  the  mind  but  do  not                   significance  of  sexuality  is
                          acknowledge it. But in the long               different for females and males,
                          run,  this  start  creating  a                which  is  one  fundamental
                          ruckus. The      most      stable             source     of    friction    and
                          romantic  relationships  and                  misunderstanding  between  the
                          marriages  seem  to  be  those  in            sexes.
                          which dominance is clear from              •  Anger
                          the  beginning.  The  dominant                management:  Had you  ever
                          partner makes all the decisions,              said some hurtful statements to
                          from  what  movie  to  watch  to              someone and later repented for
                          where to go on vacation in the                yourself? You did not mean to
                          summer,  and  the  subordinate                say  so  but  in  the  state  of
                          partner  acquiesces  and  takes  a            extreme  anger,  you  said  all  of
                          supporting  role.  But  when  the             that. We all do that most often.
                          recessive  partner  has  enough               But words are like arrows once
                          they fight back and there starts              they  leave  the  bow  they  are
                          a  collision.  So  try  to  be  a  bit        gone forever.
                          lenient     sometimes.      Your           •  Space: Everyone  needs  their
                          partner  may  seek  help  from                personal  space.  Intruding  your
                          you  but  the  day  you  start                partner’s  life  personal  space
                          controlling  each  and  every                 will  make  things  worse.  Don’t
                          activity  of  theirs  you  start              go  overboard  with  disturbing
                          walking towards a disaster.                   them.  Show  care  but  do  not
                       •  Sex:  Sex  resolves  half  of  the            disturb.
                          issues. Do I need to say more?
                          In our Indian society, it’s still a    Identifying the signs of problems in a
                          taboo,  but  we  all  know  the        relationship is a huge issue. You may
                          importance of sex in our lives.        never know when the seeds of
                          Try  to  understand  their  needs




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