SELF-LOVE IS NOT SELFISH
What is the most underrated love in life?
SELF LOVE;
Self-love is the word that says to love self, but it’s more than that. It is respecting yourself, taking a stand for yourself, and then loving yourself. loving yourself is most important because it gives the satisfaction that no other thing in the world gives.
- why expect someone else to love you when you can love yourself like no one else.
- why expect someone to make you feel special when you can take a moment and realize that you are so special and priceless.
- why expect someone else to give you confidence and motivate you when you are already a motivating star and you can wipe your tears and smile back.
- Why expect someone else to be for you when you know how to deal with everything and prove to the world that you can be independent.
Does Self-love have nothing to do with others?
Do you agree with this question or not,
let me tell you it depends, and to know how. you should know what you can change and what not!
Know that you can’t make everyone happy and this point has nothing to do with them you be yourself and let them decide whether to stay or not.
In this case, self-love has nothing to do with others.
Since there are two sides to the coin. There is another case too where my question falls apart, no matter how much we ignore but we still consider what others think of us and in this process, we try to improve ourselves, and we take a stand for ourselves. In this good way, the question is considered to be a myth.
LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE;
He has achieved success,
Who lived well,
Laughed often,
Loved much.
-Bessie Anderson Stanley
This is one of the oldest yet very famous (LLL) which briefly describes the thought very deeply. one must consider these lines to nurture their life and grow every day. As they say, everyone is different, just to assure you this point, go and read the above four lines again you understand something out of it, Everyone understands the four lines very differently. The way you understood makes you special!
Little things make a huge difference;
Hey, you! Yes, you try many things to make yourself happy, isn’t it? But miss little things and that makes a huge difference. Like when you want to have extra chocolate and everyone is just having one. you don’t take one more chocolate, thinking oh! What if they think I am a foodie?!
Ok, that may be silly but what about this one? When you are going to sleep and your brain wants you to wash dishes, check whether you have off the lights, or locked the door. Just small things.
It may be praising yourself seeing in the mirror and telling how much you love, remembering your awkward moments and giving a knock on your head, or making those weird faces(yes the one you made while reading this:)!
You are so excited to explore the world, and travel around but have you explored yourself? Do you know everything about what you like, what you want to do, and what makes you happy?
Or you just end up doing “Ask me a question on Instagram”:)
There is a lot to explore about you,
You may love watching friends(web series) which you haven’t seen yet,
You may love reading books which you never tried before,
You may love sushi…hope you haven’t tried it yet!
So now ask yourself do you know everything about YOU?
You keep changing so does everyone!
you know what shouldn’t be changed, your priorities :
Even if you dint watched friends, dint try sushi, and dint reaches EXPECTATIONS. Always keep yourself first.
If you are happy, sad, nervous, or depressed always keep yourself above all.
MAKE YOUR HAPPINESS A PRIORITY.
If I do what I love then how can my parent’s dream come true?
Ho!, you want to be an actor and your parents want you to be a software engineer!
It’s simple chose the one which gives you more happiness.
you try to take it differently, your ultimate dream is to make them proud and happy, Then their happiness is your main goal.
Make this dream happen, how you make them happy that’s up to you. You can become an actor, they will be seated in the front row and clapping for you taking the award, or take up the job then they will be happy seeing you being responsible. it’s just how you see things and make them favor you.
Have you ever thought about why self-love can never become selfish?
Because in the process of loving yourself you can never become selfish and take three chocolates when you wanted one, then people think you are crazy.
Before you sleep you don’t do all the dishes for yourself and you leave some for the morning(cum on! you love your self but you are still lazy)
So stop overthinking, just love yourself as you are!
Remember on those low days,
It is your Body that thought you lessons and made you a better person.
It is your Color that showed the true colors of people and told you to move on.
It is your Faults that made you strong and different from others.
ALL THE IMPERFECTIONS IN YOU WILL PERFECTLY COMPETE YOU;)
“I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line”- Lucille Ball
LOVING MYSELF A LITTLE MORE AFTER THIS:)
THANK YOU
